Ce am invatat din prima vacanta la mare cu bebe

RO| Weekendul acesta a fost unul cu multe noutati pentru puiul de om. Desi multe din zile sunt asa pline de nou cand ai copil mic, prima vizita la mare are o insemnatate aparte pentru multi parinti ce iubesc apa si nisipul marii.

Ca si ei, si noi visam si ne intrebam oare cum o sa fie, cat de incantat o sa se joace in nisip si cat de minunat o sa ne distram cu el la malul apei. Poate pentru unii parinti norocosi astrele s-au aliniat si au avut parte de o vacanta asa cum isi doreau, insa pentru noi nu a fost deloc lipsita de peripetii, si probabil si pentru multi dintre voi a fost sau va fi asa.

Desigur ca nu eram complet nerealisti, stiam prea bine ca atunci cand ai copil mic trebuie sa te astepti la ceva scandal sau ceva izbucniri in plans pe drum sau cand ti-e lumea mai draga, dar cu toate astea tot au existat ceva surprize.

EN| This weekend was filled with many new experiences for baby Ilie. Although most of the days are packed with a lot of firsts when you have a small child, the first visit to the sea has a special significance for many parents who love the sea and its sandy beach. Like them, we also used to dream and wonder what it would be like, how delighted baby Ilie would be to play in the sand and how much fun we will have together at the shore. Maybe for some lucky parents the stars lined up and they succeeded in having a vacation like they always wanted, but for us it was not without its challenges, and probably for many of you it was or will be in a similar adventurous way. Of course we were not completely unrealistic, I knew very well that when you have a small child you have to expect some scandal or some outbursts on the road or when you least expect it, but still there were some surprises.

RO| Iata ce am invatat in aceasta mica excursie la Constanta:
🧘🏻‍♀️Vacanta nu mai e vacanta!
O sa spuneti: “Pffff, da e la mintea cocosului ca nu o sa fie la fel ca inainte!”
Corect, chiar asa e! Dar pentru un parinte la inceput de drum sau la prima vacanta cu cel mic poate sa fie un soc! Atentie! asta daca bebe
e destul de mare incat sa isi impuna propriul punct de vedere! Desigur, atunci cand cel mic are in jur de 4 luni sau chiar mai putin vacanta seamana putin cu o briza! Pentru ca inca nu trebuie sa fugi dupa el sau sa il tii extrem de bine atunci cand se zbate ca din gura de sarpe fara un motiv anume. Asa ca ideal este atunci cand plecati in vacanta in 3 sa aveti in gand ca o sa fie o experienta dificila, dar cu amintiri ce merita povestite. Vacanta nu mai este acum o perioada de relaxare si odihna din care te intorci reincarcat cu energie, ci mai degraba un stres non-stop cu dureri de spate, maini si picioare in care te simti ca la 220V – in priza 24/24 de ore, asadar te poti considera extrem de norocos daca reusesti sa dormi langa cel mic si bine o noapte si daca apuci sa mananci un sandwich in timp ce sotul sau sotia isi face tura de plimbat si tinut in brate. O sa va intoarceti acasa mai obositi decat ati plecat, insa partea buna este ca veti avea ce povesti si daca sunteti norocosi veti avea ceva amintiri si experiente de neuitat in trei.

EN| Here’s what I learned during our little trip to Constanta:
🌞Holidays are no longer holidays! You will say, “Pffff, yes it is obvious it will never be the same!” Right, that’s right! But for a parent at the beginning of the road or on the first vacation with the little one it can be a shock! That is if the baby is old enough to impose their own point of view! Of course, when the little one is around 4 months old or even younger, the holiday looks a bit like a breeze! Because you still don’t have to run around going after him or hold him very tight as he fights and struggles in your arms like he’s fighting for his own life for no aparent reason. So ideally when you go on vacation with your child would be to think of ot as a difficult experience, but with memories worth having. The holiday is no longer a period of relaxation and rest from which you come back loaded with energy, but rather a non-stop stress with back pain, hands and feet hurting where you feel like at 220V voltage – a 24/7 ordeal. So you can consider yourself extremely lucky if you manage to sleep next to the little one and have a good night and if you get to eat a sandwich while your spouse takes him for a walk or carries him around in his arms. You will return home more tired than when you left, but the good part is that you will have some stories worh telling and if you are lucky you will have some unforgettable memories and experiences as a family.

RO|🍁Nu e neaparat o idee buna sa mergi la mare in extrasezon cu cel mic.
Sa va explic ce vreau sa spun cu asta. Stim cu totii ca noi parintii in general preocupati de binele copilului si poate de multe ori usor overprotective (ma declar extrem de vinovata de acest sindrom uneori) tindem sa incercam sa gasim solutii cat mai bune sau asa cum le consideram noi bine tolerate de puii nostri mici. Ca mamica de bebe nascut in Iulie 2018, am decis vara trecuta sa sarim complet peste vacanta la mare deoarece Ilie era prea mic. Anul acesta am hotarat initial sa mergem, dar cum ne-am intins mai mult decat ne e plapuma si am vrut sa mergem in Grecia cu masina (long story) aproape ca era sa renuntam complet la ideea unei vacante la mare. Ne-am gandit ca poate ca e mai bine in septembrie ca parca nu prea am vrea sa ne riscam cu caldura excesiva si prea multe radiatii UV. Acum vine si doza de realitate: desi temperatura e mai mult decat ideala pentru adulti, pe plaja de dimineata din cauza vantului prea puternic Ilie avea mainile si picioarele reci reci (avea pe el un body cu maneca scurta si pantaloni scurti cu sosete si sandale). Dupa ce l-am imbracat mai gros nu parea sa se fi schimbat mare lucru. Era vizibil deranjat de briza puternica si refuza sa mearga prin nisip. 😕 adio iluzii ca o sa se joace frumos si o sa facem castel in nisip!
EN| It is not necessarily a good idea to go to sea in the offseason with the little one.
Let me explain what I mean by that. We all know that we as parents are generally concerned about the well-being of the child and can often be slightly overprotective (I am extremely guilty of this syndrome at times), we tend to try to find the best solutions or as we consider them most likely tolerated by our chiodren. As a mum who have birth to a baby in July 2018, I decided last summer to skip the seaside holiday completely because Ilie was too young. This year we imtended on going, but as we stretched too thin because we wanted to go to Greece by car (long story) in the end it was almost like giving up the idea of a vacation at sea. We thought maybe it’s best to go in September at our local seaside that we don’t want to risk too much heat and too much UV radiation. Now comes the dose of reality: although the temperature is more than ideal for adults, on the morning we went to the beach due to the very strong wind Ilie ended up having cold hands and feet (he wore a short-sleeved body and shorts with socks and sandals). After a short while I changed him into thicker layers but it didn’t seem to get him warmer. He was visibly disturbed by the strong breeze and refused to walk in the sand. 😕 there go our naive illusions that we will play together nicely and make a sand castle!RO:👪Pozele de familie nu ies cum te-ai astepta
Cu totii speram sa imortalizam acel cadru perfect de vacanta sau macar unul in care sa se vada chipurile tuturor subiectilor din imagine nemiscate. Ei bine, asta e destul de greu de realizat cand ai copil! Mereu se gaseste cate ceva sau el are alta activitate in minte si nu se va supune dorintelor si vointei noastre. Uneori este pur si simplu deranjat ca se sta si nu se poate misca in voie. Mai jos incercam sa suprindem un cadru cu mine si el, insa din cauza brizei puternice Ilie refuza sa coopereze. In ciuda aparentelor, ulterior am realizat ca este un cadru memorabil si demn de pastrat, un moment autentic si cu semnificatie sentimentala pentru noi.51faa465-091b-45b6-a8a5-4fc07ed3fb29EN| Family photos do not come out as you would expect.
We all hope to immortalize that perfect holiday shot or at least one in which you are able to see the faces of all the subjects in the image without any motion blur. Well, that’s pretty hard to do when you have a baby! There is always something or he has another activity in mind and will not obey our wishes and will. Sometimes for a small child it is simply annoying to stand still and not be allowed to move. Below we tried to capture a picture with him and me, but because of the strong breeze Ilie refused to cooperate. Despite the appearances, we later realized that it is a memorable and worth keeping, an authentic moment and with a sentimental significance for us.

RO|Bebe obosit = tantrum (aparent chiar daca bebe nu e inca toddler)
Mai fusesem martora la izbucniri ale lui Bubu, insa nimic ca ce am experimentat acum. Greseala a fost ca nu am luat in calcul ce efect va avea aerul de mare asupra lui. E drept ca mai plecasem de cateva ori cu el la departare de casa si stiu ca locurile noi au anume efect, insa aparent aerul de mare l-a obosit mult mai tare si deja trecuse peste faza de ora de somn, ne-am trezit brusc cu simptome de dupa ora de somn, cand devine foarte greu de impacat. Peste asta s-au acumulat si alti factori: nu eram la cazare, nu am putut sa il pun in pat, era loc nou si necunoscut, incercam sa ne indreptam spre apartament asa ca trebuia sa il pun in Marsupiu, insa el refuza asta pentru ca o lua ca pe o interdictie de a se juca sau de a merge- desi era mult prea obosit pentru ambele. Asa a luat nastere un val de frustrare manifestat prin tipete si plansete de neconsolat. Reteta dezastrului a fost oboseala si somn + loc nou + refuzul mamei de a ii oferi ce vroia + marsupiu.
Asadar fiti receptivi la semnele subtile de oboseala primite de la cei mici. Odata ce se depaseste pragul ideal de somn caderea este foarte abrupta. Va veti confrunta cu un bebe/toddler greu de adormit, cu un comportament inexplicabil si aproape imposibil de calmat si asta poate deveni foarte greu de gestionat in contextul unei vacante cand cel mic nu poate gasi alinare in mediul ce ii este cel mai familiar: acasa.

EN|tired baby = major tantrum
I had witnessed Bubu’s outbursts, but nothing like what I experienced now. The mistake was that I did not consider what effect the sea air would have on him. It is true that we had gone several times with him away from the house and I know that the new places have a certain effect, but apparently the sea air tired him much more and he had already passed his sleeping hour phase, we suddenly woke up with symptoms we usually deal with after he has passed his bedtime, when it becomes very difficult to put him to sleep. Other factors also accumulated: we weren’t at home or at the booked rooms, I could not put him to bed, it was a new and unknown place, we were trying to go to the apartment so I had to put him in the baby carrier, but he refused this because he took it as a prohibition to play or to walk though was far too tired for either of those activities. This is how a wave of frustration manifested through screams and unconsolable crying. The recipe for the disaster was fatigue and sleep + a new place + the mother’s refusal to offer her what she wanted + a baby carrier.
So be receptive to the subtle signs of fatigue received from the little ones. Once the ideal sleep threshold is exceeded, the fall is very steep. You will face a baby / toddler hard to fall asleep, with unexplained behavior and almost impossible to calm and this can become very difficult to manage in the context of a vacation when the little one can not find relief in the environment that is most familiar to him: at home .

🍌RO|Ce mancam? – devine laitmotivul sederii la mare (sau oriunde ne aflam)
Ilie este inca in proces de acomodare cu diversificarea. Sunt cateva mancaruri sau deserturi bebelusesti pe care le accepta, insa este inca greu si nu am reusit sa il obisnuim cu legumele si carnea. It’s a process… noroc ca il alaptez inca si asta m-a salvat de cateva ori in vacanta. Am avut la noi pe drum un banana bread care este preferata lui si stim ca il accepta si in rest ne-am bazat mai mult pe fructe in cele 2 zile la mare. Recunosc ca diversificarea nu decurge tocmai cum ne asteptam, de fapt multe lucruri legate de cel mic sunt altfel decat credeam noi sau ne-am fi dorit.
EN|Ilie is still in the process of accommodating with weaning. There are some baby foods or desserts that he likes and eats, but it is still difficult and we have not been able to get him to eat vegetables and meat. It’s a process … lucky I still breastfeed him and that saved me a few times on vacation. We had some banana bread for the road, that is his favorite and we know that he accepts it and we have relied more on fruits in the 2 days at sea. I admit that diversification isn’t going exactly as we expected, in fact many things about the little one are different than we thought or we would have liked.
🍔RO|Nici mesele in oras nu mai sunt ce erau
Pentru noi a fost de asemenea greu sa reusim sa luam masa cat timp am fost plecati, mai ales ca nu erau asa multe variante si am recurs la ceva terase din centrul orasului pentru a manca cate un burger sau pui si cartofi, insa cum pe Ilie inca il protejam de mancarea cumparata sau gatita de alte persoane din motive de igiena si de teama unei enterocolite- atat de faimoasa printre bebelusi in vacante, sa mancam efectiv s-a dovedit extrem de dificil. Cum spuneam si mai devreme totul a fost asemenea unei mici scenete puse in opera de dragul nostru Ilie. A trebuit sa il distram pe rand, unul dintre noi il plimba si il tinea in brate cat timp celalalt manca.

EN|Eating out is not what it used to be.
For us it was also difficult to manage to have lunch while we were away, especially since there were not many options available and we resorted to some terraces in the city center to eat a burger or chicken and potatoes, but we are still shielding Ilie processed food or meals cooked by other people for hygiene reasons and from the fear of an enterocolitis – so famous among babies on holidays, to eat effectively proved extremely difficult. As I said earlier everything was like a little screenplay put into action by our dear Ilie. We had to distract him so we took turns, one of us was walking and holding him in his arms while the other was eating.

🧸RO|Uneori marsupiul nu e de ajuns!
In ultimele luni ne-am bazat extrem de mult pe marsupiu in deplasari sau plimbari pentru ca este foarte util atunci cand vrei sa te misti relativ lejer si sa ajungi cat mai repede pe jos undeva impreuna cu cel mic. Iubim marsupiul nostru Manduca, este extraordinar si nu stim ce ne-am fi facut fara el in tot acest timp.

Acestea fiind spuse, vine un moment cand chiar si cu ajutorul manducai simti ca ramai fara suflu de la atata tinut in brate. De data aceasta am dus lipsa unui carucior si spatele si picioarele mele au suferit aceasta lipsa cel mai mult. Ilie are acum 9 kg si desi acasa sunt zile in care nu le simt atat de tare cand folosesc manduca, in aceste 2 zile in care ne-am plimbat ceva mai mult si am si urcat foarte multe trepte ca sa ajungem pe plaja si inapoi am simtit ca ajung la capatul puterilor. Am gandit de multe ori ca ne-ar fi fost de folos si un carucior sport, ideal pentru plimbare, dar deloc potrivit pentru urcat si coborat trepte, desigur! Am ajuns la concluzia ca Manduca si carutul sunt complementare pentru mersul in vacanta cu bebe sau toddler! Asa se intampla in viata, cat traim invatam!
EN|Sometimes the baby carrier isn’t enough.
In the last few months we have relied very much on our Manduca baby carrier for trips or walks because it is very useful when you want to move relatively lightly and get as fast as possible to walk somewhere with the little one. We love our Manduca carousel, it is extraordinary and we do not know what we would have done without it all this time.

That being said, there comes a time when even with the help of your baby carrier you feel like you are out of breath by so much weight that is being held in your arms. This time I felt the absence of a stroller and my back and feet suffered the most from this. Ilie now has 9 kg and although at home there are days when I do not feel his weight while using the manduca, in these 2 days we walked a little longer and we climbed many steps to reach the beach and back we felt that I was being drained of my power. We have often thought that a sports stroller would be useful, ideal for walking, but not suitable for climbing and descending steps, of course! I have come to the conclusion that Manduca and the stroller are complementary for the holiday with baby or toddler! That’s life, as we live we learn!

RO|Mai multa atentie unde ne cazam, din punct de vedere al contextului urban!
Cazarea este din punctul meu de vedere factorul cel mai important pentru a asigura succesul sau dezastrul unei vacante! Pentru ca daca nu te simti confortabil si nu reusesti sa te odihnesti bine s-a terminat toata distractia! Acest lucru este in special adevarat cand avem si copilul sau copiii cu noi in vacanta. Evident ca intotdeauna incercam sa gasim o cazare cat mai baby friendly posibil, insa stim cu totii ca rare sunt cazurile in care cazarile din Romania sunt adaptate si gandite si pentru cei mici. Asa ca incercam pe cat posibil sa evitam macar situatii neprevazute ce pot sa aiba loc in locuri vizibil periculoase. Asadar am cautat pe booking.com o cazare cu piese putine de mobilier si paturi mari ca sa nu cada cel mic, sa aiba loc de acrobatii in somn, preferabil cu parchet si covoare ca sa nu doara prea tare daca cumva cade si se loveste, lucru important mai ales in aceasta perioada de acomodare cand invata sa mearga singurel. S-au mai adunat si alte cateva exigente personale legate de rating, igiena, comfort si design (defect profesional). Pentru ca ne-am hotarat destul de spontan si pe ultima suta de metri, nu am avut asa multe optiuni disponibile de cazare in Constanta, singura varianta a fost sa luam o cazare in Centru.

EN|Pay attention to where your accommodation is located
In my opinion, accommodation is the most important factor in ensuring the success or disaster of a vacation! Because if you do not feel comfortable and you can not rest well, it is no fun at all! This is especially true when we have our child or children with us on vacation. Obviously, we always try to find accommodation as baby friendly as possible, but we all know that there are rare cases in which the accommodations in Romania are adapted and designed for the little ones. So we try as much as possible to avoid at least unforeseen situations that can occur in visibly dangerous places. So I searched on booking.com for accommodation with few pieces of furniture and big beds so that the little one does not fall, and is able to toss and turn as he pleases in his sleep, preferably with wooden floors and carpets so that it does not hurt too much if he falls and hurts himself, this is especially important during this period of accommodation when he is still learning to walk alone. Other personal requirements related to rating, hygiene, comfort and design (professional defect) were also gathered. Because we decided quite spontaneously and in the last moment, we did not have so many options available for accommodation in Constanta, the only option was to book something in the Center.

RO|👌Am gasit un apartament excelent cu bucatarie, doua dormitoare si 2 bai – pe care o sa vi-l arat si o sa las si linkul de pe booking pentru ca merita! Ce mi s-a parut util pentru o familie este ca au bucatarie cu tot ce e nevoie pentru a gati, in baie exista si o masina de spalat cu uscator si am gasit si un fier de calcat- pentru eventualele accidente cu hainutele celor mici. Cladirea in care se afla este recent renovata asa ca totul era destul de nou si mobilierul impecabil la momentul sederii noastre. Pentru toate astea merita

EN|I found an excellent apartment with kitchen, two bedrooms and 2 bathrooms – which I will show you and I will leave the link here booking because it’s worth it! What I found useful for a family is that they have a kitchen with everything you need to cook, in the bathroom there is a washing machine with a dryer and I also found an iron – for any accidents with the clothes of the little ones. The building is recently renovated so everything was quite new and the furniture impeccable at the time of our stay. For all this it is worth five stars!

RO|Downside: Initial am considerat ca este ideal si pentru proximitatea de cafenele si plaja, insa ce nu am luat in calcul a fost forfota care rasuna seara in Piata Ovidiu. Muzica, uneori ocazionalele artificii sau fanfare, in functie de perioada vizitei. Norocul nostru a fost ca Ilie era atat de rapus de oboseala incat nu s-a trezit complet atunci cand a fost galagie, insa probabil ca data viitoare cand mergem in vacanta vom ocoli zonele atat de centrale.

EN|Downside: Initially I thought it was ideal for the proximity of the cafes and the beach, but what I did not take into account was the rattle that echoed in the evening in Piata Ovidiu. Music, sometimes occasional fireworks or fanfare, depending on the time of visit. Our luck was that Ilie was so tired that he did not wake up completely when it got loud, but next time we go on vacation we will probably try to avoid staying in the central areas.

RO|Au fost desigur si experiente placute in aceasta vacanta:
🤩Amintiri autentice
🌊Prima oara cand bebe vede mare
⭐️Primii pasi in nisip, chiar daca fara prea mult succes
⭐️Am urmarit cu privirea si am auzit pescarusii
⭐️Am ascultat valurile marii si am simtit briza
😅Ne-am plimbat pana ne-au durut picioarele
🌛Am dormit neintorsi si bebe la fel
😂Ne-am bucurat cand am ajuns acasa

EN|There were of course some bright and enjoyable experiences on this short trip:
🤩Authentic memories
🌊First time baby sees the sea
⭐️First steps in the sand, even if with a bit of challenges
⭐️Watching the seagulls and hearing them
⭐️Listening to the waves
😅Taking long walks until our feet hurt
🌛Sleeping deeper than ever
😂Enjoying being back home again

Voi ce planuri de vacanta aveti cu cei mici si ce situatii neasteptate ati experimentat in excursiile cu ei?